A Co-Parenting Don’t

You co-parent your child because you understand that your children do best when they have loving, fulfilling and respectful relationships with both their parents. But could you accidently be sabotaging your own efforts?


According to this Huffington Post article released in March, co-parents may unwittingly be creating unnecessary stress on their child by packing their bag. Why?

As the article indicates; creating a bag as a go-between with clothes and items being shuttled between homes can leave your child feeling as though they belong in neither place. Disagreements over lost items can arise and children feel stuck in the middle.


What can you do instead? “Whether it’s their own room or their own drawer, give them the security to know that, even when they aren’t there, there is still a place for them. Have everything they need for their time at your home. Don’t make them pack a bag. Don’t fight over whose clothes they are. No matter who purchased them, they’re her clothes. Give her the freedom.”


Part of effective co-parenting is finding ways to minimize conflict, and thereby minimize the impact on the children. Co-parenting isn’t always easy, but may have enormous benefits for your children where you can actively work together to create a healthy environment.


For more on Co-Parenting, see our article on co-parenting camps by clicking here. And Mindful Co-Parenting by clicking here.


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