Self Improvement
3 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Staying in a Bad Marriage for the Kids
January 13, 2021
You're at lunch with your friends. Or on the phone with your mother. You get to talking about what a jerk your spouse is and how you wish you weren't with them anymore. You rattle off a laundry list of reasons why you can't stand them. In isolation, none of the reasons seem too bad. Taken together, the thought of this person walking through the door at night sickens you to the point of contempt. And you haven't even gotten to the quality of your sex life — or lack of it.
Book List About Race and Racism: Black Lives Matter & They Always Have
June 7, 2020
We've curated a list of anti-racism books for children and adults. Learning and conversation is the first step to breaking the racism chain that burdens the black community.
Managing Quarantine Stress
March 20, 2020
Many families are struggling right now; money is tight, being home together poses new relational challenges, and many parents are navigating schooling at home for the first time. As we enter the end of week one of coronavirus isolation (some of us in Seattle have been at this for much longer…Elis...
5 Simple Ways to Be a Better Parent After Divorce
January 31, 2019
Set Aside Time for Your Kids Getting a divorce can be quite time consuming, and life after divorce can be equally as busy. Before you become too swamped, it's important to set aside time specifically for you and your children. Even if the day ahead of you is looking hectic, try to enjoy t...
Respect in Conflict Resolution
August 1, 2018
As family law attorneys, we are involved in some of life's biggest conflicts. Conflict is normal and expected in family law matters. After all, there is a dispute over a relationship of some kind or we wouldn't be here. When involved in a divorce, custody dispute or other matter, the parties a...
3 Ways to Make Yourself Happier Right Now
September 20, 2017
Happiness has to come from within. Money or a perfect relationship can ease stress day to day but the only thing that will bring you true happiness is yourself. This terrifying fact requires that you first take responsibility for your current state of happiness (or unhappiness). Accept yours...
What Resentment Does to a Marriage – Death By a Thousand Paper Cuts
September 7, 2017
In most cases, divorces are not prompted by a single concrete moment of conflict or a dramatic affair. The death of your relationship is the result of a million tiny paper cuts that eventually create an accumulation of wounds so severe there is no healing them. As soon as mutual respect is lost i...
Why you should probably let go of the idea of fairness
August 20, 2017
There is nothing fair about divorce. Whether you or your spouse initiated the divorce, is it probable that you married this person with the intention of growing old together and that is no longer a possibility. That itself is unfair. As far as the divorce process goes, being hung up on eve...
Woman are Settling
August 2, 2017
Today I saw a woman post in a Facebook group I belong to about her recent miscarriage and how supportive her husband has been during the process. It made me deeply sad to read so many other women (96 comments) say things to the effect of “youre so lucky your husband is very supportive” and “Im ...
Are You Furious? A Guide
July 24, 2017
Are you feeling angry? Many of the same issues that led to divorce may resurface and could be exacerbated by the divorce process. What is a person to do when they are a on the receiving end of their soon-to-be-exs anger, blame or hostility, and how should you deal with your own anger? Reco...