The magic of a mediator: why a neutral party may be the key to successful divorce

Divorce is represented in the media and tabloids as unavoidably acrimonious and incredibly lengthy. If this sounds unappealing to you – try mediation.

The primary reason mediation is so successful is that you are engaging a neutral party (the mediator) in resolving conflict and facilitating communication. This party is able to make objective assessments and recommendations in order to reach mutual agreement between you and a soon to be ex spouse.

Mediation is often quicker than litigation and can spare a lot of unnecessary conflict and emotional distress. In a courtroom stand off where both sides have guns blazing it is hard to find middle ground because any concession feels like you are acquiescing to the enemy. Through mediation you can approach divorce with an entirely different mindset; rather than us vs. them, it’s a collaborative process wherein you prioritize your interests in order to achieve the desired result instead of fighting over every detail. Mediation can be especially useful if you have children and want to avoid dragging them into a courtroom battle.

If you are the type of person who tries to minimize conflict and maximize results in your life, mediation could be the best choice for you.


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