Who Does Marriage Serve in 2016? – Guest Blogger

In recent years, marriage rates have hit an all time low in the United States. Some speculate that this is a result of increasing financial independence for women. Without the economic imperative to marry, women are more selective in their dating habits and seek qualities beyond financial stability.

Traditional gender roles are not withstanding the test of time and by tossing them out, many young people in the US are not in any rush to marry.  If men are not assessed based on their ability to financially provide, and women not on  their maternal and home making skills, what are we looking for in a spouse? Better yet, why are people marrying at all?


Today’s marriages are more about equal partnership than ever before. Sharing of responsibility both familial and financial is a cornerstone of real gender equality. This less conventional partnership is also clearly reflected in modern divorce. In the past, mothers would retain primary custody of children and be responsible for the vast majority of child rearing while fathers would pay larger amounts of child support. It is increasingly common however that parents split custody and financial responsibility 50/50.


The institution of marriage itself is incredibly patriarchal and serves very little modern day purpose for economically independent women in the United States. Up until recently the institution of marriage has been deeply rooted in religion, and therefore in religious morality, which requires women in no uncertain terms to assume a subservient role in their marriage.  Another compelling factor for marriage in the past was the antiquated notion that one must be married before being physically intimate. Obviously those ideals are ceasing to be normalized in our culture and this is paving the way for both women and men to embrace their sexuality individually rather than it being defined by their marital status.

Given the above information and the sobering fact that more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, why are financially independent people in 2016 choosing to get married?

STAY UP TO DATE

Subscribe to our newsletters

 
Subscribe to one or more of our newsletters, delivering meaningful insight on topics that matter to you and your family.

FURTHER READING

Latest Blog Posts

If you are getting divorced, you may be worried about what it will do to your finances. Maybe your finances are heavily intertwined with your spouse’s, or you are worried about what your future will look like, given these changes.…

Establishing paternity and parentage is important for many families and parents. Regardless of why you want to establish paternity and parentage, the process has the potential to be confusing, especially if you are unfamiliar with the terms and rules for…

After divorce, you may find yourself living on one less stream of income than you did when you were married and want to find a way to make up for it. Or even if you didn’t lose any income by…

If you are in the process of getting remarried, a prenuptial agreement may be the last thing on your mind. It should be at the forefront of it, however, as it can be beneficial for you, your spouse, and, if…

As a mom of four (now adult) kids, I remember well the flood of emotions that came each time they went to my ex’s, especially during the early days of my separation and eventually after my divorce. Not only was…

The holidays can look much different during a divorce than they did only a year earlier, and the changes can take some getting used to. The challenge is that you have to start somewhere, and in these “newer” moments, it…

You can use Collaborative Law to support your process of creating and negotiating a prenup with your partner.

In Washington state, if you are involved in a custody dispute, which involves difficult questions related to specific needs for your children or serious parenting deficits (such as mental health, substance abuse, or domestic violence), an evaluation service may be…

Apologizing can be hard, especially if you have a contentious relationship with the person you are apologizing to. If you want to have a polite (even friendly) relationship with your ex in the future, though, owning up to and apologizing…

In the same way that every divorce is different, so, too, is every divorce lawyer and the law firms where they work. From lawyers’ individual personalities, expertise, and experience to law firms’ varying cultures and values which provide the framework…