Divorce is represented in the media and tabloids as unavoidably acrimonious and incredibly lengthy. If this sounds unappealing to you – try mediation.
The primary reason mediation is so successful is that you are engaging a neutral party (the mediator) in resolving conflict and facilitating co…
We are all on our phones 24/7 so why not add a few more apps to your home screen that could help you manage divorced life?
App – Two HappyHomes (similar to Our Family Wizard, my fave)
This app lets co-parents create calendars, store important medical information, share photos, and record …
According to psychologists, many people stay in unhappy marriages out of fear or avoidance. If you are contemplating divorce, be honest with yourself about what is holding you back from making that decision. Are you worried you wont find another life partner? Are you worked about how you will fa…
Writing
All communication, no matter how trivial, should be done in writing. Email is preferable to text because email is easily searchable and can be accessed from a variety of different devices.
Commit to your parenting plan
Follow the tenants of your parenting plan. Treat your parenting pla…
Most of the time unsolicited advice is innocuous, but in the case of divorce, advice from well meaning but misinformed people can be harmful.
Encouraging acrimony
Especially if you feel slighted by your divorce, it is likely that those around you may encourage you to “fight” or be intenti…
Divorce isn’t happy but divorce can teach us all a whole heck of a lot about happiness. For better or worse, divorce is one of the quickest ways to find out what is important to you. Negotiating a separation from a life partner really puts things into perspective regarding the fragility and unpr…
Divorce isn’t something that anyone “wants” but it is frequently presented as a solution to insolvable marital issues. Divorce can be expensive, emotionally draining, and acrimonious. Sometimes divorce really is the best choice, but it is important to consider a few important factors when grappli…
Will our increasingly polarized political climate have a future impact on divorce? Following the election of Donald Trump, there were several viral news stories about women leaving their husbands over their political differences. Is this justifiable? Should there be a marriage vow clause for “in …
Self-Care for Parents in Divorce
Susan Stiffelman shared an image in her latest newsletter with the subject “You have permission to rest, and more”. Often parents, particularly parents going through a divorce or trying emotional time forget that they too are human beings that deserve to be…
While many people view their pets as furry members of the family, the courts in Washington view domestic pets (such as dogs and cats) as personal property. Unlike children, where a parenting plan is established and custody may be shared. Pets are generally given to one party or the other; with co…